Finding faith after divorce
Every
child needs to have a father and mother who are married to each other and
living in a loving relationship.
Divorce
shatters the family and ruins this ideal relationship. After a half century of
easy divorce, our society is beginning to realize the harm done by divorce,
especially to children. This damage often remains throughout their whole life.
They
seem to have a more difficult time in judging and choosing a suitable spouse.
They also have a higher divorce rate than others. This is a huge problem for
the faith community.
When
we preach the gospel message, we use human words. We say, "Our
Father," and in the parable of the Prodigal Son we see a son who leaves
home, lives a life of sin, repents and returns home. His father is waiting for
him with open arms and immediately forgives him. This is a story of God's love
for us and his willingness to forgive us. It tells us who God is and how he
acts toward us.
But
for the child of divorce, it is the father who left the family, and he is not
coming back.
Our
life experiences have a lot to do with how we see and understand God. Neighbors
need to reach out to single moms and their children. We need to show God's love
and concern for those who feel pain and confusion; I see many good families
doing just that.
THE
REV. GENE FRILOT
Pastor
Emeritus
Incarnation
Catholic Church