Marriage

Congratulations on your engagement!

Planning a wedding at Incarnation 

marriage-2The first step in preparing for a wedding is to contact the parish office at 818-242-2579 to set up a meeting with a member of the clergy. This must be done at least six months in advance in order to set the date and time for the wedding. At your first meeting with the priest, or deacon, you will receive a copy of our Marriage Guidelines and they will review the marriage preparation process with you. As part of the preparation process for marriage you will need a new copy of your Baptismal certificate, register as parishioners, and attend an Engaged Encounter weekend.  The priest, or deacon, will give you more information about this program when you meet with him.  Please note that all music for your wedding needs to be arranged through the parish music director.

For a complete list of the guidelines and preparation process for a wedding at Incarnation please see our guidelines below.

What is the Sacrament of Marriage?

The Sacrament of Marriage is a covenant between God and his people. This divine covenant can never be broken. In this way, marriage is a union that bonds spouses together during their entire lifetime. The sacrament of Matrimony signifies the union of Christ and the Church. It gives spouses the grace to love each other with the love with which Christ has loved his Church; the grace of the sacrament thus perfects the human love of the spouses, strengthens their indissoluble unity, and sanctifies them on the way to eternal life (CCC 1661). 

The love in a married relationship is exemplified in the total gift of one’s self to another. It’s this self-giving and self-sacrificing love that we see in our other model of marriage, the relationship between Christ and the Church. Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. (CCC 1662). Christian marriage at its finest is a reflection of God’s self-giving love expressed between the love of two people.

Music Policies for Weddings

Liturgical Issues
Music is a very important part of any church ceremony. It enriches the experience for you, your family, and guests. However, it is important to remember that these ceremonies, while celebrating the individuals involved, are public expressions of religious faith for the entire Incarnation community. For this reason, care is taken in the selection of the music for Sunday liturgies and the same care must be exercised for family celebrations in church. Some guidelines for selection of music include:

  • Seek the guidance of the parish staff when selecting music,
  • The music must be primarily religious music, preferably from our parish “Gather” hymn books,
  • Non-liturgical pop or rock music is not permitted, except as prelude or postlude music and only if appropriate and respectful of the church environment,
  • Classical music and traditional art music including classic processionals and recessionals are generally approved if fitting and appropriate,
  • The Creed is only done on Sunday or Holy Day liturgies,
  • The Our Father is a group prayer, so it is not sung as a solo by a singer, but may be sung by the entire assembly.
  • Congregational music is preferred over having vocalists sing “concert-style” pieces.
Suggestions for Weddings:
Prelude (seating of guests) may use popular music, quiet instrumental music often best,
Processional (parents, sponsors, bridal party, bride)
Canon in D by Pachelbel
Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring by Bach
Bridal Chorus by Wagner
Trumpet Voluntary by Clarke
Trumpet Tune by Purcell
Psalm 19 by Marcello
Air II by Handel
Responsorial Psalm
Ps. 34 Taste and See
Ps. 34 The Cry of The Poor
Ps. 103 The Lord is Kind and Merciful
Ps. 121 Our Help Comes From the Lord
Ps. 145 I Will Praise Your Name
Gospel Acclamation
Celtic Alleluia
Halle, Halle, Halle
Mass of Joy and Peace
Mass of Ressurection
Lighting of the Unity Candle, Coin, Lasso, Veil Ceremonies
are very short, so a shortinstrumental is recommended
The Unity Candle Song
One Hand, One Heart
Preparation of the Gifts
I Have Loved You
We Have Been Told
Here, I Am Lord
Behold the Lamb
Panis Angelicus
Holy, Memorial Acclamation, Amen, and Lamb of God
Mass of Joy and Peace
Mass of Ressurection
Latin Mass parts
Jesuit Mass
Communion
One Bread, One Body
Bread of Life
Pan de Vida
In the Breaking of the Bread
Meditation/Offering to the Blessed Virgin
Ave Maria by Schubert
Ave Maria by Bach/Gounod
Hail Mary, Gentle Woman
Recessional
Wedding March by Mendelsssohn
Allegro Maestoso by Handel
Rondeau by Mauret
Rigaudon – Campra